How To Heal Love Wounds

Our attitude, our ways of doing things, our fears, if unchecked, may keep us at lower vibration levels. We may fall in a sinkhole never to return.

Luckily, every human being has been given the power of choice, especially when it comes to relationships, you can choose today what you become tomorrow. Then choose wisely.You have the power to think in a certain way. You have the freedom to behave or act the way you want.

This is the great gift, may be the only one that comes straight after the gift of life. Of course I am talking about human beings in normal situations. I can’t claim that every body has that kind of freedom. For example, prisoners and all other people deprived of liberty don’t have the means to exercise these powers

When it comes to relationships, everyone hopes that they will work for the better and never the worse. You may still remember the love of your childhood. It never goes away even if your experience was a bad one. It happens to everyone. You meet someone and without realizing it, you open your heart.

During this process, we are not talking about thinking. It’s all about the emotions of strong physical attraction, romance and love. I am mentioning love after romance because true love is built and lived over time. Some say that what we feel first is this attracting force that grabs and paralyses your entire self. There are vibrations that your eyes are sending into your brain but before the brain can have a chance to process them, your heart takes over.

In many cultures, people say that the “eyes of love are always blind”. This simply means that when you have strong feelings about someone, even if he or she is a bad person, you will not see it. Your family member, your friend or colleague will attempt to advise you and tell you that you are making a mistake but you will never listen until it is too late.

However, when we fall in love, we don’t expect deceit or anything that could go wrong later. We see only the bright, the exciting side of the medal. You may even describe this situation as becoming a prisoner of love. This behavior is natural. Animals in the jungle lose their lives fighting for their mates. In the same way, a loving heart can force our bodies to do the impossible to earn acceptance of the person we really love with all our hearts.

There is absolutely no reasonable explanation to this situation since we are only dealing with the emotions and the strongest ones a human being can possess.

The world of love may be compared to the deepest and darkest ocean. When you sink into that ocean, chances are, you may not come back to the surface alive.

When things go wrong and the person you love rejects you or something terrible happens to him/her, it is the end of your world. That is exactly what you feel at first. I had a neighbor who loved her husband so much that, when she caught him with another woman, she took away her own life by hanging herself in a tree. If you think about it, was this act of suicide really worth it?

Now we are trying to be reasonable here. We all may have gone through love disappointments but the most important thing is, we reshaped our lives. We healed our wounds and found our true love.

Love is journey. It has it’s detours, bridges, uphills and down hills. I may say that it has sinkholes as well. Go through those challenges and keep the fight to move forward. For every door that is closed, there is an open door somewhere and you need to be determined to locate it. The funny thing is the person who rejects you may not even now why she/he is doing that.

Here is my story. I had this childhood friend, Stephanie. Stephanie was in the same class as me in our village elementary school. I loved her so much. She used to come to school with sweets and share with me.We exchanged so many love letters but when I asked if she would marry me when we grow up, she said no. We got separated and forgot about each other.

Out of the blue, 30 years later, a friend of mine gave me her number. I called her and asked:” Stephanie, why did you refuse to marry me?” She replied innocently:” I have no idea.”. I was deeply touched by that answer and I truly believe that she was being genuine.She is again a friend but not in the way I had expected. There is absolutely no anger but amazement. Love is mysterious indeed.

You and I have gone through many challenges but the most important is to learn from them and move on. We can listen to our hearts but also there will always be a low voice within us to advise us, especially when things go wrong. Therefore, my friend, if you feel disappointed by love, find your ideal place where you can sit quietly and reflect. You have lost nothing if your love was in the interest of the person you loved.